1. Excessive Self-Promotion Disguised as “Inspiration”

Pattern: Every post centers them. Even “value” content circles back to how amazing they are.

Clues:

• “Just closed another $100K deal from the beach 🏝️. If I can do it, so can you.”
• “It’s not about the money, it’s about freedom 💸 (but here’s 5 photos of my lifestyle).”

🧠 Performative humility, disguised as motivation.

2. Overuse of “Community” Language to Mask Control

Pattern: Talks about tribe, family, co-creation — but only on their terms.

Clues:

• “So grateful for my tribe. If you’re not aligned, feel free to unfollow.”
• “Our community values loyalty. If you question me, you’re not in resonance.”

🧠 Community becomes a control mechanism, not a container for growth.

3. Spiritual Bypassing / Ascension Superiority

Pattern: Uses spirituality to elevate self above others, avoid accountability, or explain away harm.

Clues:

• “Some people just aren’t evolved enough to understand my frequency.”
• “If you’re triggered, it’s your shadow — not my responsibility.”
• “Everything I do is divinely guided — even if you don’t get it.”

🧠 Uses sacred language as armor, not access.

4. Virtue Signaling

Pattern: Posts about social justice, empathy, or philanthropy — for praise, not action.

Clues:

• “I stand with ___” (but takes no real-world action).
• “Giving back is everything 🕊️” (but shares every donation and act of charity online).
• Selective outrage for optics, not justice.

🧠 Public morality, private manipulation.

5. Public Love Bombing, Private Devaluation

Pattern: Posts constant affection for partners, friends, or collaborators — while privately diminishing, controlling, or ghosting them.

Clues:

• “This goddess/king is my everything 💍💫”
  (Then ghosts or discards weeks later, and deletes all evidence).
• “I’m so grateful for my team” (until the team challenges them, then gets quietly cut off).

🧠 Perception management > connection.

6. Endless Image Curation

Pattern: Obsessively filters, curates, edits — not for aesthetics, but identity control.

Clues:

• No casual or vulnerable content, ever.
• Entire identity feels “branded,” not human.
• Every post subtly signals status, exclusivity, or unattainability.

🧠 You’re seeing the mask — not the person.

7. Subtle Put-Downs / Passive-Aggression in Captions

Pattern: Uses captions to shame, mock, or target others — without naming them.

Clues:

• “Some people just can’t handle powerful energy.”
• “Real ones know who they are. The rest can stay in the shadows.”
• “I don’t compete. I watch others exhaust themselves trying to keep up.”

🧠 Ego cloaked in cryptic shade.

8. Hijacking Trends for Visibility

Pattern: Uses every trend or viral issue to insert themselves — even if unrelated.

Clues:

• Suddenly “trauma-informed” when it’s trending.
• Posts about Gaza, mental health, women’s rights — but redirects to selling something.
• Mimics language from real movements to appear “in the know.”

🧠 Relevance over resonance.

9. Deleting Dissent

Pattern: Curates a false sense of harmony by deleting or blocking any disagreement or critical feedback.

Clues:

• “Only love and light here 💫” (while silencing anyone who questions them).
• “This is a high-vibe space” (as justification for censorship).

🧠 Feedback = threat to control.

10. “I'm the Only One Who…” Complex

Pattern: Frames themselves as the only truth-teller, guide, or master of a certain path.

Clues:

• “No one else is doing it like this.”
• “Other coaches are faking it. I’m the real deal.”
• “If you’re not learning from me, you’re wasting your time.”

🧠 Exclusivity as superiority.

🧠 Why It Works (Until It Doesn’t)

• Narcissists on social media are masters of perception.
• They exploit algorithms, emotional triggers, and visibility.
• They curate vulnerability just enough to appear relatable — not to be real.
• But over time, the mask cracks — through inconsistencies, ex-clients or partners speaking out, or energetic misalignment.

⚔️ How to Protect Your Energy Online:

1. Trust patterns, not posts.
2. Notice how you feel after engaging — nourished or drained?
3. Look for how they treat others behind the scenes.
4. Beware of people who preach community but create cult-like control.
5. If someone’s brand is “I’m more conscious than you” — run.

✨ The Sovereign Creator

A lightwalker, truth-speaker, soul-led human who shares from integrity — not ego.

This person doesn’t post to perform, persuade, or prove.
They post to serve, reflect, connect, and elevate collective truth.

🔄 The Antidote: Sovereign Creator Traits (Opposite of Narcissist Online)

💠 How They Show Up Online

1. Post from Presence

They share when there’s something real to say, not to fill the feed.

Examples:

• “Here’s what’s alive in me right now…”
• “This came through after a conversation with my inner child today…”
• “Not advice — just a share. Take what resonates.”

2. Show Process Over Performance

They don’t just share the “after” — they share the human journey with nuance and reflection.

Examples:

• “This project nearly broke me. Here's what I learned.”
• “I felt lost this week. But in that space, something powerful opened up.”
• “What I used to believe… vs. what I know now.”

3. Center Collective Truth

They don’t need to be the one — they amplify others, honor nuance, and speak to the collective soul, not for personal praise.

Examples:

• “Gratitude to ___ for planting this seed.”
• “This is part of a bigger movement. I’m just one voice in it.”
• “If this resonates, amazing. If not, trust your own compass.”

4. Model Healthy Boundaries + Consent

They don’t manipulate through urgency, guilt, or spiritual superiority.
They invite, not pressure.

Examples:

• “Here’s what I’m offering. Feel into it. No pressure, ever.”
• “This is for those who feel the pull. Trust your timing.”
• “If you’re not ready, that’s okay too.”

5. Showcase Humility + Humanity

They’re in devotion to the work, not obsessed with identity.

Examples:

• “What I got wrong.”
• “I’m learning. This is what’s unfolding.”
• “Thank you for calling me in. Here’s how I’m moving forward.”

🧬 Core Frequency:

"I serve the message, not my image."

They don’t weaponize light.
They don’t confuse visibility with value.
They don’t lead to be followed.
They lead to remind others that they can lead themselves.

🌿 Final Mantra:

“I don’t need to be seen to matter.
I don’t need to be praised to lead.
I don’t post to be followed.
I post to leave a trail of truth — for those walking themselves home.”

🧭 Social Media Self-Assessment

“Am I creating from ego… or from essence?”

Use this checklist to reflect on your motivations, habits, and presence online.
There is no shame in your answers — just awareness.
Awareness is the beginning of alignment.

🔥 Section 1: Ego-Driven (Narcissistic Tendencies)

☐ I check how many likes, views, or comments I get multiple times a day
☐ I feel anxious, upset, or unseen if a post doesn’t perform well
☐ I post to stay visible or relevant, even when I’m not feeling it
☐ I edit or filter most of my content to present a certain image
☐ I only post the best parts of my life — never the struggles
☐ I talk about community, but I mostly promote myself
☐ I delete or block people who challenge me or question my message
☐ I feel competitive or envious when others in my field do well
☐ I use spiritual/self-help language to appear evolved, but don’t always embody it
☐ I feel more “me” online than I do in real life
☐ I post value mostly to get clients, not to serve or support
☐ I rarely acknowledge where I learned something or who inspired me
☐ I feel disconnected from my audience — like I’m always performing
☐ I feel drained after posting or “selling myself”
☐ I need validation online to feel worthy or valuable

🧠 Score: Count how many you checked.

🌱 Section 2: Soul-Led (Sovereign Creator Patterns)

☐ I only post when I feel clear, honest, or called to share
☐ I share both highlights and human moments
☐ I use my platform as a tool for truth, healing, and service
☐ I welcome respectful dialogue — even if people disagree with me
☐ I don’t need to convince people; I trust resonance
☐ I credit others and celebrate peers openly
☐ I create from presence, not pressure
☐ I’m okay with taking breaks from posting — my value is not tied to visibility
☐ I feel like my real self on social media, not a version of me
☐ I allow people to unfollow if it’s not for them — no hard feelings
☐ I create content that would still feel meaningful even if no one engaged with it
☐ I’m not afraid to say, “I don’t know” or “I’m learning”
☐ I choose depth over performance, truth over trends
☐ I post to connect, not just to be seen
☐ I protect my peace and only share when it’s not costing my nervous system

🧠 Score: Count how many you checked.

📊 Reflection:

🪞 Final Integration Question:

“If no one liked, commented, or shared this…
would I still feel proud that I posted it?”

📡 SOCIAL MEDIA INTEGRITY RADAR

“Is the person I’m following authentic, or just performing?”

Ask yourself the following questions about the person/page you’re observing.
Be honest about the patterns, not just a few standout posts.

🔥 Section 1: Red Flags — Ego-Driven, Image-Obsessed, Narcissistic Patterns

☐ They speak in absolutes — “My way is the only way”
☐ They never publicly admit being wrong, evolving, or learning
☐ Their content often feels polished but emotionally empty
☐ Their brand identity seems more important than human connection
☐ They subtly shame, call out, or “flex on” others in their niche
☐ They spiritual-bypass — dismissing critique as “low vibe” or “projection”
☐ You’ve seen them post about “authenticity” but never show vulnerability
☐ Their energy feels competitive, dominant, or elitist
☐ Their captions often include superiority-based language:
– “Most people don’t get this…”
– “Other coaches are doing it wrong…”
☐ Their “community” feels like a fan club, not a safe space
☐ They show no signs of real-world accountability or checks/balances
☐ You feel drained, confused, or “less than” after engaging with them
☐ They use urgency, FOMO, or guilt to drive sales
☐ They post daily but never interact with others' content (one-way street)
☐ They subtly invalidate opposing views instead of holding nuance

🧠 Score: Count how many you checked.

🌱 Section 2: Green Flags — Embodied, Soul-Led, Truth-Rooted Patterns

☐ They share both the polished and the messy — real human texture
☐ They credit others often, celebrate their peers, and uplift rising voices
☐ Their content leaves you feeling grounded, inspired, or seen
☐ They’re not afraid to admit mistakes, change their views, or say “I don’t know”
☐ They treat their audience like equals — not followers, but fellow humans
☐ They use spiritual or coaching language with clarity, not superiority
☐ You’ve seen them take breaks, rest, or recalibrate publicly (they’re human)
☐ Their offers come from service, not pressure — you never feel “sold to”
☐ They comment on and support others consistently — reciprocal energy
☐ They build belonging, not dependency
☐ Their words and energy feel aligned in every format — video, caption, comment
☐ They ask questions more than they give commands
☐ They invite you back into yourself, not deeper into them
☐ Their work has helped you grow, reflect, or shift something internally
☐ You would trust them with a hard truth — because you’ve seen their integrity

🧠 Score: Count how many you checked.

📊 Interpretation

🪞 Anchor Question:

“Does this person make me feel more like myself…
or more like I need to be them to be worthy?”

🛡️ Bonus: Embodied Leader Green Flag Summary

✅ Says “I don’t know”
✅ Credits their sources
✅ Allows disagreement
✅ Posts from presence
✅ Practices what they teach
✅ Doesn’t need to be followed
✅ Points you back to your own power