The Sacred Union: What Makes Someone the Right One to Devote ourselves too | First Self Union
Last updated on 19 Aug 2025
Marriage at its highest expression is not a contract of convenience. It is a covenant of devotion. Two people choosing, again and again, to rise together in love, respect, and partnership.
Many relationships falter because we are taught to value appearances, performance, or potential instead of the deeper qualities that sustain love.
Through Alison Armstrong’s Queen’s Code and the wisdom of polarity between the masculine and feminine, it becomes clear: the “right one to marry” is not found in perfection. It is found in presence, character, and the daily practices that honor both partners.
🌹 The Right Woman to Marry
For men, the right woman is not the most polished or impressive. She is the one who makes him feel like the best version of himself.
She:
- Respects who he already is
- Appreciates his efforts, big and small
- Speaks her needs clearly
- Receives graciously
- Trusts his competence and masculine energy
- Is loyal and emotionally safe
- Brings joy instead of constant critique
- Has her own passions and independence
- Believes in his vision
- Practices forgiveness
- Loves him as he is
💡 A woman like this does not compete with him. She partners with him. And when she does, he does not just commit. He cherishes.
🛑 Pitfalls That Push Men Away
Some habits slowly erode connection: correcting, interrupting, over-explaining, micromanaging, expecting mind-reading, withholding appreciation, comparing him to others, taking over his role, over-analyzing, testing his love, talking down to him, or not letting him win.
💡 These patterns are not born from malice. They come from habit and conditioning. With awareness, women can shift into respect, appreciation, and trust. And when they do, men rise.
✨ The Queen’s Code Lens: Inspiring Men
The Queen’s Code reframes how women relate to men. A Queen:
- Speaks with honor
- Receives without shame
- Asks directly
- Appreciates his instinct to provide
- Trusts his masculinity
- Respects his boundaries
- Celebrates his heroic nature
- Chooses him again and again
💡 This does not mean shrinking. It means standing tall as a woman, and inviting him to stand tall as a man beside her.
🤴 The Right Man to Marry
The right man is not defined by wealth or status. He is defined by how he treats his Queen.
He:
- Honors her feelings
- Provides without keeping score
- Protects her energy
- Values her feminine wisdom
- Keeps his word
- Cherishes her uniqueness
- Creates emotional safety
- Leads through partnership, not control
- Celebrates her receiving
- Invests in growth
- Repairs quickly and forgives fully
- Chooses her again and again
💡 The right man to marry is one who sees his partner as a Queen, not a project. He does not try to change her. He creates a kingdom where she can flourish.
👑 The Sacred Union Framework
When a Queen and a King come together, they create polarity, respect, and mutual inspiration. Their marriage is not built on rigid roles. It is built on living commitments:
- Polarity: Queen inspires, King provides
- Partnership: Neither loses, both win together
- Repair: Mistakes are met with humility and restoration
- Daily Choice: Marriage thrives not on one yes at the altar, but on thousands of yeses afterward
✨ The Sacred Union Truth
Sacred partnership is not about fixing one another. It is about creating an environment where both the masculine and feminine are honored. Where love is not just a feeling, but a daily practice.
When a woman stands as a Queen, respecting, receiving, and inspiring, she awakens the King in a man. When a man lives as a King, protecting, providing, and cherishing, he empowers the Queen to flourish.
The truth is simple. The right one to marry is the one who calls you into the best version of yourself while loving you as you are. The right marriage is not the absence of mistakes. It is the presence of respect, repair, and recommitment.
When two people live these codes, choosing each other fully day after day, marriage becomes more than survival. It becomes a kingdom built on devotion. A place where love is not just felt, but embodied. Where both can rest, rise, and reign together.